Saturday, February 24, 2007

Travels in the skin trade

My top five things I wish were attainable qualities in a fellow sexual partner:

5. Understands that their attitude to women in general cannot be separated from how I experience the way they treat me.

4. Is capable of grasping the fact that sexuality is not experienced in one way for men and another for women.

3. Is as irresistible to me as I am to them, and vice verse not just somewhere in range but exactly equal.

2. Can keep up with my libido, not just at the start of a relationship.

1. Doesn't use pornography, not just because they are getting enough sex but because it is not necessary for them and are aware that there are thousands of more creative, intimate and less harmful ways to enjoy sexuality.

Really I know that about one in every ten billion people will agree with me on the last one which is why I guess I'm nailing my colours to the mast, having met a few of these enlightened folks I am pretty convinced that we are not living in denial about human nature or the supposed 'male need for visual stimulation' that apparently warrants the overuse of pornographic material along with the ridiculous myth that these days its more of a career choice than exploitation which completely misses the fucking point! Anybody else wondered in what wonderfully varied ways our sexual desires would find expression if it weren't for the pre-packaged language of popular pornography? Anyways rant over, prepared to be shot down seeing as i already know everyone who reads this will disagree but it's one of those awfully uncompromisable issues for me. I live in hope!


At 3:38 AM, Blogger thisismarcus said...

No shooting you down from me... if you can't express your opinion on your own blog then what's the world coming to? Even if it is completely backwards and flawed :)

At least I got you blogging again!

At 7:07 AM, Blogger The Paranoid Mod said...

One in every 10 billion is about half a person. Half of Andrea Dworkin maybe. But which half?


At 7:59 AM, Blogger Scribbler said...

Maybe I have been out with some weird men but very few have even liked pornography. Yeah sure maybe they were lying to me but seeing as I am not particularly against it it would seem a strange thing to do. Consequently I think that almost all your demands are quite attainable. Where you fall down is the sex drive. After years of research, and I am not just refering to personal relationships (as you know, I am not joking), I have concluded that as much as men like sex, generally speaking at least, they are too lazy to be bothered with it half the time. Well it's either that or sex drive is genetic and we are especially gifted (probably a bit of both)so you need to find other outlets from time to time, or just please yourself, so to speak! But in general I think you are not asking too much and in the words of a great poet (hmmm),"Don't go for second best, baby!"

At 4:40 PM, Blogger Basquiat Scrawls said...

thanks guys
scribbler, that made me laugh like a lunatic or maybe i just feel like a lunatic cos its late and i've had too much coffee and too much time staring at the screen trying to make sense of french welfare reforms, you know a normal night in!!
mod, for the record i am not a man hating nutter like that awful woman and i do not think violence and sex are as one in mens minds.


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